I don’t claim to have all the answers. I don’t even think I’m all that smart to be honest. But I am out here doing the things in life I want to do. And I do have the confidence to put the stuff I write onto the internet. Read if you please, it might just help you make a change or two in your life like someone else’s writing helped me make some changes in mine… 

So let’s get it out there right away:

Are you consistently working towards what you want to accomplish in the long term or not?

When I was healing up from my little back injury, I didn’t care what anybody thought – I just wanted to be healed. So I tried everything in the book…from water aerobics to yoga to chiropractic to meditation…it didn’t matter to me. I wanted to be healed.

If someone told me that doing a handstand while listening to Nickelback all day long would heal me faster – I’d be inverted before you know it.

Why should anything in life, if you want it that badly, be any different than ‘healing’? Especially from something that knocked you down and leaving you wanting to achieve a higher level of normalcy? Learning that stagnant, constant behavior is detrimental to growth is a MAJOR KEY (DJ Khaled voice).

I want to reiterate those words above very simply. What are you doing each day to get what you want to achieve? I can honestly tell you fame and fortune or “success” or “happiness” MOST LIKELY won’t just find you. Now that’s not always the case (to you trust fundees, Kardashian’s and the like) but typically, in 99.9% of every single success story, WORK is involved. We’ve all been taught this, but what does it mean?

(We’re all in this crazy ass journey called “LIFE” together after all, aren’t we?)

That’s a damn fact. Things are going to be super uncomfortable at times; fears will have to be faced and bridges may have to be burned.

If you’re working towards something very specifically, the work has to be consistent. I find this difficult in my own life as well! Because every action not geared directly towards that specific accomplishment is an equal and opposite reaction not towards that goal or accomplishment. Unconscious actions not towards goals are actually directly pushing you away. Each time you mentally say “I’m going to work out” and then don’t, that’s you furthering the distance between you and losing weight. You know?

It sounds like I’m speaking in circles…are we all on the same page? Sort of?

Or at least the same book?

I know for me, life is a lot of being able to do what I please. And more importantly, doing it when I want to do it. Sometimes money is a little too tight, sometimes I stay on a friend’s couch a little too long, sometimes my family pressures hinder what I might want do…

But I constantly try to do what I want, when I want to do it.

Focus on that. I’d like to think that that is my “why”. What is yours?

Let’s try an example to explain this, how about. A real simple one:

Let’s say you’re at home and you want to make a cake. Sadly, you look in the cupboard and you don’t have the necessary ingredients. You could brainstorm some of the steps (actions) involved in making a cake (focused accomplishment) and you put together the things that need to be done.

Ideally, if all goes according to plan and you’re consistent in your actions- first, you’d have to get the ingredients from the grocery store. Then you’d return home, mix everything together, put it in the pan or whatever and voila – a CAKE. Congrats, you took actions to achieve an accomplishment.

(I’m a super savvy baker as you can tell…)

BUT…

What if on your way to get ingredients at the grocery store, your gas light went off. So, you stopped for gas. After filling the tank, you pull out of the state and see a “GARAGE SALE” sign. Once you’re done digging through other people’s used crap, you leave with your new treasures and hop back in the car.

Finally, you get to the grocery store. You begin getting the ingredients one by one but as you go, you realize you also need more paper towels and, hey, the deli lady is nice so you talk to her. She’s got a kid in college and she’s worried about his grades and blah, blah, blah…you take a pound of sliced turkey and continue shopping.

You gather the rest of your items.

Once you finally have every ingredient and make it back home, you realize the dog hasn’t been out yet. So you let the pup out while you remove the ingredients from the grocery bags. While the dog is outside you notice a light from the corner of your eye and it dawns on you the dishes are clean and you can unload the dishwasher……

You get my point. And I’m sure right now this lame cake metaphor is actually hitting home in many aspects of your life! How often do we start towards a goal and end up side tracked countless times along the way? The status you want, the legacy you want to leave, the money you want….hell maybe even you really want a cake now but haven’t come around to baking one yet!

To give a more personal context to all of this, I think that fear of WHAT MY FRIENDS THINK has held me back from things I’ve wanted for a very long time. I enjoy writing. I enjoy speaking. I enjoy helping others. I like sharing all of these things, whether it’s through my social media like SnapChat (dillonpomeroy) and Instagram (dillonpomeroy) website (here) or in person and at events or with people I meet. Et cetera et cetera et cetera.

The most interesting part about that is that these friends of mine probably, really, seriously could not give a f*** and, what’s more, most likely want me to succeed.

(That way we can all go to Vegas more often too…)

I could be totally wrong and they actually make fun of me a ton, but that’s the point. Who gives a f***. So think about that. I care more about what these eight or so guys think about the things I post, say out loud, do for work, who I date…and so on.

And very seriously, only recently have I truly tried to not care about anything except what I want to do.

Those are my examples of the constant, unnecessary stops at garage sales, the distractions at the grocery store, and the letting of dogs out that have inhibited action toward the cakes I plan on baking.

As always, overcome some fear today. Stay consistent. AND KICK SOME ASS.

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Dillon Pomeroy | (952) 836-5644 | dillonpomeroy@gmail.com